BBC Learnings · Section 6

Loneliness

It's great that you're here to keep me company to spend time with me so I don't get lonely,

Level: C1 · 113 sentences

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  1. It's great that you're here to keep me company
  2. to spend time with me so I don't get lonely,
  3. because loneliness is the subject of this programme.
  4. It's good to be here, Neil.
  5. I think many of us have experienced loneliness at some point.
  6. Maybe you felt lonely because all your friends have gone out for dinner without you,
  7. Or maybe you felt lonely just because you don't fit in somewhere.
  8. Yes, that's when we sometimes use the expression to feel lonely in a crowd.
  9. Well, we'll be exploring if this is a new idea
  10. or something humans have always experienced,
  11. and along the way we'll be teaching you some new vocabulary.
  12. But now I'm here to keep you company.
  13. How about a question for me?
  14. Of course. Well, one possibly lonely man is Mauro Morandi.
  15. He's lived alone on Budeli Island in Italy for many years.
  16. But how many years exactly?
  17. Is it a six years, b 31 years or c 44 years?
  18. 44 years will be tough, as with 31.
  19. So, I'll go for six years.
  20. OK, Rob. We'll find out later if that's right.
  21. Now, I'm sure we all want to be alone
  22. from time to time to escape the demands of our colleagues
  23. or the pressures of real life.
  24. But would we really want to be totally alone?
  25. Well, I certainly wouldn't.
  26. And research has found that prolonged social isolation
  27. is bad for us, particularly mentally.
  28. It's an interesting topic and one that
  29. the BBC Radio 4 programme Thinking Aloud has been exploring.
  30. Its guest, Faye Bound-Alberti, reader in history at the University of York...
  31. explained how loneliness is a relatively new emotional state.
  32. A state is a condition at a particular time.
  33. Let's hear what she had to say about references
  34. to loneliness in literature.
  35. Novels are fascinating because there's a difference between novels
  36. in the 18th century when they first came into
  37. being and novels in the 19th century.
  38. In the 18th century, something like Robinson Crusoe,
  39. there's not a single reference to loneliness.
  40. By the 19th century,
  41. novels are full of lonely people
  42. and that reflects those kinds of social changes.
  43. Give me some examples.
  44. What might count as an example?
  45. Well, I suppose I'm thinking about if you compare something like
  46. Wuthering Heights where you have this desperate desire on the part of the heroine to find love,
  47. which is bundled up too in the sense of the self
  48. as not being complete.
  49. It's interesting that Fay mentions the story of Robinson Crusoe,
  50. about a man living on a desert island,
  51. does not mention the word loneliness.
  52. But because of a shift in how people behaved
  53. and thought in the 19th century,
  54. called social change,
  55. Loneliness became an emotion that was written about in stories.
  56. Ah, but loneliness tended to be something affecting women.
  57. They were searching for happiness by finding a significant other a partner,
  58. usually a man who they wanted to marry.
  59. How things have changed!
  60. Yes. Now, Fay also went on to talk about
  61. how some female authors,
  62. like Virginia Woolf,
  63. looked for solitude that's being alone because that helped them be creative.
  64. Even today, being alone gives us headspace and time to think,
  65. as long as it doesn't last forever.
  66. Anyway, as we mentioned, we've probably all been lonely at some point,
  67. and Faye Bound-Alberti told the Thinking Allowed programme that loneliness can take many forms.
  68. Absolutely. I think that loneliness is something that affects all people,
  69. but at different times in their lives.
  70. And I would describe it in terms of pinch points.
  71. There are times when we change, when we get married,
  72. we become mothers, we get divorced.
  73. Anything that changes our life might put us under temporary loneliness.
  74. When it's a problem is when it becomes chronic.
  75. It seems that there are certain times in our lives
  76. when we might feel lonely,
  77. when we break up with a partner
  78. or have a baby and feel isolated, for example.
  79. These are moments that Fay describes
  80. as pinch points times in your life
  81. when there are difficulties and things slow down or change.
  82. We could say loneliness at these times is understandable, normal and temporary.
  83. When it becomes a bigger issue,
  84. it's what Fay describes as chronic, so long-lasting.
  85. And loneliness isn't always obvious to other people,
  86. so it's good to check in with friends
  87. and family to see how they're feeling and to ask
  88. if they're OK.
  89. Of course, it would be difficult to check in on Mauro Morandi,
  90. who's been living on Budeli Island in Italy for many years.
  91. But how many years exactly?
  92. Well, I thought six years.
  93. Was I right?
  94. I'm afraid not.
  95. It's actually been 31 years.
  96. He told National Geographic magazine, I'm sort of in prison here,
  97. but it's a prison that I chose for myself.
  98. So I'm guessing he's got used to his own company.
  99. I certainly couldn't live alone for that long.
  100. I'd be too lonely.
  101. I need company, Rob.
  102. Yeah, me too, Neil.
  103. And loneliness is what we've been discussing in this programme.
  104. Here's a recap of some of the vocabulary we've mentioned.
  105. Firstly, to keep someone company is to spend time with someone
  106. so they don't get lonely.
  107. Social change is a shift in how people behave and think.
  108. A significant other is an informal way of describing a partner.
  109. Solitude describes being alone.
  110. When talking about life,
  111. Pinch points are times where there are difficulties
  112. and things slow down or change.
  113. And chronic describes a health condition that is long-lasting.